My hashtag in retrospect

First of all I am writing this on my personal blog and not queereka because the hashtag  i made (#fuckcispeople)  was not an organized effort of queereka or the skepchick network. It was an organic expression of frustration that took on a life of its own.


This article i feel gives a fairly good breakdown of the event timelines, as well as adding some of the legitimate and non legitimate criticisms of the hashtag, showing the varying reactions across the board.

Lets cover the criticism I felt had the most weight to it.



This one i feel is a legitimate point, it is easier for me as a white person to say that and I do not experience racial discrimination, I have white privilege. I understand as much as i’m able to that people of color have struggles I do not. Dr. Ziegler’s point made me pause and consider if what I had created was silencing people of color, I can’t speak for people of color but if anyone feels like they were silenced by this I deeply apologize and I accept full responsibility. 


Now on to the non legitimate.


Paris Lees, you do not speak for me. You do not speak for any transgender person but yourself. Stop acting like you are an authority over other transgender people especially while you apologize for the righteous anger of the oppressed to our oppressors you whining sniveling traitor. You are one of those brand name trans bloggers I despise with the force of a thousand suns so for the love of god shut the fuck up. Nobody gives a shit about your ass kissing Gay Inc. for scraps at the table. I’m sure you have had your fair share of discrimination and painful life experiences but that does not give you the right to apologize for my anger or the anger of anyone who used that hashtag.  Had you simply said “i choose not to participate but i understand the anger” it would be one thing. But you didn’t.

You said


“It makes me really sad because I can vividly remember a period of my life when I hated the world and would have jumped on a hashtag like this. Being abused in the street can do that to you. This anger is very real and I think that non-trans people need to take this into account before they condemn people using this hashtag, whether they agree with it or not”.


So in other words, your life isn’t bad anymore therefore you can’t fucking see how bad it is for others anymore so you will decry those who suffer. Yeah you see why the only word for this woman is traitor.




What do I even say to this horseshit? You are in the same category as Paris, a whining sniveling traitor who thinks she speaks for others all while ironically making a post saying people who made the tag don’t speak for her, go ahead and read that garbage if you want but.

tl;dr = I don’t like thing therefore all trans people shouldn’t like thing. How dare you think of liking thing.

Keep kissing the kyriarchy’s ass honey i’m sure they will let you have a few table scraps you annoying shit.

A few annoying sycophants repeated their talking points but they aren’t worth covering imho.



This is what Gay Inc. Wants all trans people to be.

There were TERF’s attempting to troll the hashtag but we were pretty effective in drowning them out. Nice try bug but no cigar. You cant silence organic memetic anger like that. Try doxing me harder next time perhaps people might give a shit then 😉



Next up is the reaction from cis people.

This part was pretty hilarious.

Bunch of mad cis folks claiming that I was being too angry, and others were too angry and why didn’t we make a nicer hashtag to spread the same message. Basically a whole shitload of tone policing.

The hashtag #fucktransphobes was attempted by others. It did not go viral. It did not get attention. It went nowhere. You failed. You proved me right by your very actions.


This i think is really good reply to the tone policing.


To further drive the fact that they were totally 100% fucking wrong I decided to put the matter to the test.


Today I used a hashtag called #stoptranserasure


Those are the sum total of all posts containing the hashtag since i used it.

One cis person *still fucking complaining about it*

I made the point very clear in my posts what it was about. It should have gone just as viral had the concern trolls been even close to right.

And for the final nail in the coffin here is this exchange

Now lets go on to the real messages of the tags. The raw stories and pain people shared. This is by no means comprehensive but i think it shows a good sample of the messages shared.



Yeah. This is what that sniveling traitor and Gay Inc. was apologizing for.



Nice doesn’t fucking work.  It is only by direct opposition to the status quo that LGBT rights have gotten where they are today, but most of you dont know that due to the pinkwashing, ciswashing and whitewashing of LGBT history.

Here is a good post from reddit (yes reddit is shit but sometimes you find a diamond) about how radical confrontation of the status quo is what got us where we are today.

(Screenshot because i dont want to give those fucksticks pageviews.)

So as you can see assimilationism does not work, it never has and it never will.


We are trans*,  we are different than the cishets and we should be proud of that. So much LGBT history was sparked by radical trans* people pushing the envelope, stonewall for example was sparked by a trans woman of color and that was a *riot* that created the LGBT movement we have today.


If this is the “nice acceptable approach” , if this is the “Professor X style”  of activism count me the fuck out.

Im fucking trans* magneto.




#MagnetoWasRight #FuckCisPeople.


I’m not advocating violence here, in fact I’m a strict pacifist, but radical expressions of anger not only have their place they are the spearhead of our movement.  We can create radical non violent expressions of rage to accomplish our goals. Like hashtags.

Overall I feel the result was good, a lot of discussions happened and a lot of privileged peoples fragile egos got bruised, and thats a good thing. By pushing the envelope we create a wider range of what is accepted. And we need that since Gay Inc. has been throwing us under a bus since stonewall, they have been stealing our talent, momentum and energy since day fucking one and I for one will not let that pass.






9 thoughts on “My hashtag in retrospect

  1. Crissa

    Thank you for sparking this outpouring with the meme #fuckcispeople – you have made me a better ally by eliciting many voices and ensuring that they reached those of us who might not have otherwise heard them. And just because I can’t resist being a little catty – please tell me that other folks think it is super funny that a post on the website called thelesbianmafia is being circulated by some haters on FB.

  2. In which I inspect on your retrospect

    See, this really comes down to how you meant this post to go.

    Was it a simple expression of anger at the gross inequities in the world? A way to get your voice heard in the sea of oppressing thought that does exist for the trans movement? I can understand that. You are justified in the same sense that all speech is justified, and you have a purpose that I can respect. However, were you trying to improve the situation? Were you trying to promote understanding?

    I would say that even if you were, this was not the way to do it. A righteous anger is a good thing in the face of inequities, but you forget the one thing that plagues all social justice movements… those in the minority who desire an equal treatment are usually unable to get it themselves.

    Not saying the LGBT movement hasn’t made some phenomenal inroads in uniting their own community. But as a percentage of power in America (or the rest of the world) they are vastly outnumbered. If you manage to unite your entire group while completely alienating the majority you get nothing. You need to win others over to your side.

    Just as in the civil rights movement it has been through examples of excellence and measured organization that the LGBT movement has built upon. Strong men like Jackie Robinson and Martin Luthor King Jr. often had to swallow their pride to advance because they realized that it was all about changing the mind of their oppressors, not humiliating them or bruising their egos.

    Sounds like kowtowing I know, but in every race (whites, blacks, etc.) and every civilization there has always been a struggle between in and out groups. The only time the oppressed ever win without changing the mind of their oppressor is through revolution. The LGBT group has neither the desire (at least I don’t) nor the numbers for that, so at the moment I suggest a more measured approach. You risk not only alienating those who are white/male and cis, but also women and minorities who have gone through struggles you do not know (and are thus in a position to perhaps help).

      1. In which I inspect on your retrospect

        Fine, I shall be more direct. The fact that you can’t see the difference nor the necessity is part of why this outburst was so meaningless and will change nothing.

        Hopefully it made you popular among your peers on tumblr, but did anyone capable of changing anything benefit from a change in heart from this? All I saw was hate, and hate in response. The only positive responses I saw were like-minded individuals, but that is less social change, and more circle jerking.

        Also, I find it slightly hypocritical that you claim others do not speak for you (and it is wrong of them to try), when in reality all they were trying to do is make you think before your outburst spread hate into a movement that would color their own words. So, way to speak for them.

        1. Laurelai Post author

          Also if you paid any attention to anything you would know it was an organic expression of frustration that took a life of its own, but like many of the so called critics you didnt read.

          1. In which I inspect on your retrospect

            I read it. We live in the age of the internet (which should be obvious to a blog owner) and thus however organic our posts are, if they blow up it is all back to us.

            For example… how many times have bigots made a small comment on a private blog and seen it blow up despite their best efforts? Are they immune from criticism because they only meant it as an “organic expressions of frustration”?

            I’m sure they didn’t see their comments as divisive either. Hate rarely breeds love, but more hate.

            As for the tumblr thing, I am sorry if that is ambiguous. However, the way I meant it to be read (as it can be) is that like minded individuals on tumblr seemed to support you, but anyone influential outside of your peer group did not. I did not mean to imply this was limited to tumblr.

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